Comments on: Hair Disaster Zone: The First Intervention http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 11:07:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Kacey http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1718 Kacey Tue, 10 Jun 2008 22:49:53 +0000 http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1718 You guys have such great thoughts! Ann, I can see what you mean about straightening products...we started the child off with some gel, we just needed something to help us. Of course an organic, natural product would be best. Gloria, yes I wonder about hygiene neglect. The child is from a large family, but mom's in a child-loving profession, which alleviates my worry a little. I am definitely looking into this though, and trying to encourage the pre-teen to WANT to bathe, as she is an extra stubborn one (she likes to push against whatever you say and doesn't know what to do with a compliment). Thanks for all the input. The next school year will bring updates. You guys have such great thoughts! Ann, I can see what you mean about straightening products…we started the child off with some gel, we just needed something to help us. Of course an organic, natural product would be best. Gloria, yes I wonder about hygiene neglect. The child is from a large family, but mom’s in a child-loving profession, which alleviates my worry a little. I am definitely looking into this though, and trying to encourage the pre-teen to WANT to bathe, as she is an extra stubborn one (she likes to push against whatever you say and doesn’t know what to do with a compliment). Thanks for all the input. The next school year will bring updates.

]]> By: Ann F. http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1706 Ann F. Tue, 10 Jun 2008 14:01:48 +0000 http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1706 I also think neglected child. Further though, are you aware that hair straightening products can be damaging to the health of a young girl? (all of us actually) Chemicals may be too estrogenic, putting her and anyone who uses them at risk of breast cancer in the future. Also, those with straight hair use chemicals to curl, those with curls use chemicals to straighten. What about a simple cut/thinning that leaves her hair 'natural'? I also think neglected child. Further though, are you aware that hair straightening products can be damaging to the health of a young girl? (all of us actually) Chemicals may be too estrogenic, putting her and anyone who uses them at risk of breast cancer in the future.

Also, those with straight hair use chemicals to curl, those with curls use chemicals to straighten. What about a simple cut/thinning that leaves her hair ‘natural’?

]]> By: kerry http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1705 kerry Tue, 10 Jun 2008 12:11:17 +0000 http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1705 hi kacey, i have a 11 year old here everyday playing w my 5 year old and shes kinda like my niece.i just had to talk to her about deoderant...i think its great youre helping her ,its important about hygene and the other kids not to make fun of her.the 11 year old goes to school w another girl that missed school for days because she had no clean clothes!i think like gloria, whats up w the parents.?i really dont know the exact age group, as they get in there teens its always been like krista said w my real niece and spray tans and nails and pedicures and coach bags...she started that in 6th grade, big time.you have a special heart to reach out and help this child!id keep it up, even if it was on the side you talked with her.its a very hard ages, and other kids can be very mean if you arent just like them. as i know, the 11 year old thats here alot,dresses her own style and loves chemical romance band and it kinda reminds me of cindy lauper days,a repeat in history, as we all went through that era.the kids in her new school, a wealthy area, all raulph lauren,abercrombie capital, and she flows to her own beat.behind it all, high honor student, artist, but the family doesnt have money for all the fancy clothes eiether.keep up the work with her, she really needs it.god bless hi kacey, i have a 11 year old here everyday playing w my 5 year old and shes kinda like my niece.i just had to talk to her about deoderant…i think its great youre helping her ,its important about hygene and the other kids not to make fun of her.the 11 year old goes to school w another girl that missed school for days because she had no clean clothes!i think like gloria, whats up w the parents.?i really dont know the exact age group, as they get in there teens its always been like krista said w my real niece and spray tans and nails and pedicures and coach bags…she started that in 6th grade, big time.you have a special heart to reach out and help this child!id keep it up, even if it was on the side you talked with her.its a very hard ages, and other kids can be very mean if you arent just like them. as i know, the 11 year old thats here alot,dresses her own style and loves chemical romance band and it kinda reminds me of cindy lauper days,a repeat in history, as we all went through that era.the kids in her new school, a wealthy area, all raulph lauren,abercrombie capital, and she flows to her own beat.behind it all, high honor student, artist, but the family doesnt have money for all the fancy clothes eiether.keep up the work with her, she really needs it.god bless

]]> By: Gloria http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1703 Gloria Tue, 10 Jun 2008 04:02:49 +0000 http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1703 Kacey, this child sounds like she could be dangerously neglected. I can't imagine any reasonably functioning parent allowing his or or child to go around unwashed, unkempt, etc. Is there more to the story? Kacey, this child sounds like she could be dangerously neglected. I can’t imagine any reasonably functioning parent allowing his or or child to go around unwashed, unkempt, etc. Is there more to the story?

]]> By: Kacey http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1697 Kacey Mon, 09 Jun 2008 15:25:33 +0000 http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1697 My students are quite unique. They overcome challenges every day that most people their age (or older for that matter) never have to deal with. Although the majority of them come to school bathed and clean every day, there are always the exceptions. You are completely right that my student will have to decide that keeping her hair clean and styled is important to her, before any change happens. I typically would not have a makeover in my class, however in this case, it was the best thing we could do to try to make her blend in a bit better (as we all know that in junior high you REALLY don't want to stick out negatively). The child has a lot to offer, but kids will not give her a chance in her current unhealthy, smelly, unkept state. This child is truly on the other end of the extreme: no fake tans, highlights, or plastic surgery in her future, which is the upside. My students are quite unique. They overcome challenges every day that most people their age (or older for that matter) never have to deal with. Although the majority of them come to school bathed and clean every day, there are always the exceptions. You are completely right that my student will have to decide that keeping her hair clean and styled is important to her, before any change happens. I typically would not have a makeover in my class, however in this case, it was the best thing we could do to try to make her blend in a bit better (as we all know that in junior high you REALLY don’t want to stick out negatively). The child has a lot to offer, but kids will not give her a chance in her current unhealthy, smelly, unkept state. This child is truly on the other end of the extreme: no fake tans, highlights, or plastic surgery in her future, which is the upside.

]]> By: Krista http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1696 Krista Mon, 09 Jun 2008 14:03:08 +0000 http://beautyandthebreast.org/2008/06/09/hair-disaster-zone-the-first-intervention/327#comment-1696 Kacey- This story actually surprises me, mostly because the pre-teen and teenage girls these days are SO into hair, makeup, nails, clothes, fake tans, etc. I mean, when I was that age, I liked to look cute and have nice clothes. But, it seems like the girls these days insist are getting their nails done, highlights put in their hair, designer hand bags, etc. Those things didn't even cross my mind when I was their age. To me, it just starts the problem at a young age, if they are geting highlights and fake nails put on at 14 and 15...what are they going to want at 18???? Yep, you got it.....plastic surgery!!!! So, this story surprises me, this girl must be very unique and different from the rest of her peers. The truth is, we are who we are, we are how we were brought up, and what our parents taught us to be like. If our parents take us to get our spray tans, highlights, etc. at age 12 and 13 then that is our frame of mind...what we think we need to be like. But, if your parents don't teach you anything about "looking your best" then that doesn't matter much to you. There needs to be a happy medium there somewhere. My take is that this girl is going to have to decide on her own that doing her hair everyday is important to her. No one can teach her to want to do her hair everyday. One day, she will decide on her own. Kacey- This story actually surprises me, mostly because the pre-teen and teenage girls these days are SO into hair, makeup, nails, clothes, fake tans, etc. I mean, when I was that age, I liked to look cute and have nice clothes. But, it seems like the girls these days insist are getting their nails done, highlights put in their hair, designer hand bags, etc. Those things didn’t even cross my mind when I was their age. To me, it just starts the problem at a young age, if they are geting highlights and fake nails put on at 14 and 15…what are they going to want at 18???? Yep, you got it…..plastic surgery!!!!
So, this story surprises me, this girl must be very unique and different from the rest of her peers. The truth is, we are who we are, we are how we were brought up, and what our parents taught us to be like. If our parents take us to get our spray tans, highlights, etc. at age 12 and 13 then that is our frame of mind…what we think we need to be like. But, if your parents don’t teach you anything about “looking your best” then that doesn’t matter much to you. There needs to be a happy medium there somewhere. My take is that this girl is going to have to decide on her own that doing her hair everyday is important to her. No one can teach her to want to do her hair everyday. One day, she will decide on her own.

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