It’s time for this woman to grow up so that her doctor takes her seriously. A “foob“?

An adult is proactive and does not accept treatment that is incomplete. A careful look and touch or even a moment to palpate the reconstructed breast is appropriate and should be asked for, if not given. Frankly, if you have to ask for that basic care, then this doctor is not the doctor for the job. Find another who will treat your reconstruction seriously.

I deeply understand that by giving painful issues names that mask the real problem it can be like a band-aid over a wound. But, one day, you have to look at the wound and accept it for what it is. And that is when you become an adult in the world of mastectomy and reconstruction, use appropriate and correct vocabulary, and expect, even demand, correct treatment..

And that is the day that your doctor or another doctor will take you seriously.